This one is going to be different. I can promise you that. But I can also promise that you won’t ever
be uninspired or bored - this is the girl who will change you, she won’t ever
take your shit, and you’ll be a better man because of it.
She comes across as a paradoxical mix of
outgoing but introverted, very social but seldomly out. When you’re so used to
not needing anyone, you know exactly who you are, and she’ll never fake
anything because of it. This makes maintaining relationships a constant struggle
for her. She’ll connect with many, and they’ll quickly feel comfortable with
her, but it takes her a
while to feel fully comfortable, so she can only take being around others
incrementally.
This might frustrate you. There seem to be
so many walls to break down. Just when you start to feel like you’re figuring
her out - you find another piece to the puzzle that throws everything off. Be
patient. She’s this tough because she had to
be. Something happened that taught her to never need anyone. Someone she needed left
before she was done needing them. But none of this will spill out easily.
She’s extremely uncomfortable
with other people seeing her vulnerable or in pain. Her emotions and pain are
hers, and this is what she’s used to.
She’ll tell herself she doesn’t need you.
She’ll make situations worse by trying to suppress her feelings about them.
When you fall for the girl who’s used to not needing anyone, believe that she
has more feelings and layers than she knows what to do with. Her instinct will
be to try to compose herself. When she does open up to you, it’severything. Being
emotionally naked with someone is how she expresses her love.
She’ll know exactly who she is and what she
wants. When you’re used to not needing anyone, you do what you want, when you want, and
without asking permission or informing anyone. She loves this part of her
identity, but she secretly wants you to confront her. She’s hoping that
sometimes, you’ll put your foot down, and challenge her stubborn ways.
She’s strong, maybe even too strong for you at
first. Don’t let this fool you. This is her outer shell. Her armor. She is so
used to taking care of herself that it's going to be hard for her to let
someone else in. It took a lot of work to get to where she is: Independent, taking
no shit and being happy on her own. She's afraid to let you in because she's
afraid of what will happen if you might leave.
I can promise you it won’t be easy, she’ll
hang on to her walls for as long as she can. She will be enigmatic. She will
always want things her way, and she’ll fight you when she doesn’t get it.
She’ll even try to push you away. This is
how she protects herself.
But when you really get to know her, she’ll
be the girl who will change your life. Don’t always give in to her, but be
patient with her. She’s strong, but she’s also scared - scared of love, scared of needing
someone, and definitely scared of you.
Because even if she says she doesn’t need
you, at her core she is just a girl who has more love than she knows what to do
with.
